論 語 Lun Yu – Les Entretiens de Confucius

子路問曰‘何如斯可謂之“士”矣’
子曰‘切切、偲偲、怡怡如也、可謂“士”矣。朋友切切偲偲、兄弟怡怡’

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Tzeu lou pria Confucius de lui dire ce que doit être un gentilhomme. Le Maître répondit : « Celui qui est exigeant, affable et prévenant mérite le nom de gentilhomme. Il est exigeant et affable envers ses amis ; il est prévenant envers ses frères. »

Couvreur XIII.28.

Qualities that mark the scholar in social intercourse.
Tsze-lû asked, saying, "What qualities must a man possess to entitle him to be called a scholar?" The Master said, "He must be thus, – earnest, urgent, and bland:– among his friends, earnest and urgent; among his brethren, bland."

Legge XIII.28.

Tzu-lu asked, 'What must a man be like before he deserves to be called a Gentleman?' The Master said, 'One who is, on the one hand, earnest and keen and, on the other, genial deserves to be called a Gentleman–earnest and keen amongst friends and genial amongst brothers.'

Lau [13:28]